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Patience

I am a great believer of reliability and consistency, so when my website became un-operational for 3 weeks, I became annoyed and impatient. I didn’t expect that renewing the registration of my domain (beingintelligentgifted.com) through a different company would take time. I spent useless hours trying to speed it up by using live chats, help buttons, etc. for the reason that I had always published an article in the first week of the month and was so frustrated that this had changed.

I delayed grocery shopping, postponed appointments, cancelled cinema outings and prepared dinner simply and quickly in favour of trying to put this website online. After so many hours spent fiddling with the computer, logging on/off, I decided to stop bothering my service provider. (Hopefully, the delay did not disappoint my wise subscribers and readers).

I wanted instant result though I was already told that it would take between 5 and 15 days. My parents brought me up to be patient and be gracious when waiting. But, have I changed? I hope not, and it was just a rare occasion when I thought that impatience was necessary to cope with our current high-speed, information-loaded society.

What did I feel during those 3 weeks? I was irritable, tired and tense. Some people have reported feeling angry, stressed, sick and detached from their relationships when they are impatient. So, why are we impatient? .. because we want instant gratification, which is evident everywhere these days.

There are passes that enable us to jump queues in cinemas, nightclubs, supermarkets, etc. When you post something, there are choices for one-day, 3-day, 5-day delivery or normal one. Quick leisure and fun activities, e.g. games on iPhone, are more patronised than chess and other board games.

Generally, patience equates to healthy and successful career and relationships. We should know the causes of our impatience to be patient. For instance, if you’re impatient because you’re tired or hungry, don’t whinge .. rest or eat. If you’re impatient because your productivity is hampered, find alternative solutions. If you’re impatient in a supermarket because someone in front of you does small talk with the check-out cashier, chat with other customers or grab a magazine from the stand nearby to browse.

When you feel that your patience is running out, try the following: manage your emotion by forcing yourself to calm down, relax (taking deep and slow breaths), speak slowly and softly; distance yourself from the situation by going out for a walk or doing something different; be a good listener and a keen observer; remind yourself that impatience (as I’ve experienced it) doesn’t force others to act or give you what you want.

Patience is referred to as open-mindedness and self-regulation that result in the capacity to tolerate delay, slowness or difficulty without being angry. Patience is backed up by this quote “small reward in the short term but big reward in the long term.” Somewhere some time ago, I read this message, which has found a permanent place in my mind: “Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.” (if you know the author, please comment here).

We don’t have to be psychologists to know that the high rate of impaired attention is due to impatience at home, at school or/and at work. On the other hand, patient people have better interpersonal skills and are viewed positively by their friends, colleagues and family. Therefore, wherever you are, be patient because impatient is detrimental to your health and relationships. (from my website Being Intelligent Gifted)

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